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Compassion Guidelines

Compassion is a characteristic of the energy of the Goddess, of the Holy Spirit, of the Sacred Feminine in all beings. Compassion is often confused with pity, and they are very different things. While pity is generally based on the intention (even if unconsciously) to feel better about a situation that stirs our emotions. For example, giving money to a beggar on the street who is an alcoholic. We know beforehand that this money will be used to support his addiction and that we are not helping him, but rather trying to mask what we are feeling (even if we are not aware of this intention). Compassion implies the acceptance of the present emotion, whether it is related to a situation, which we usually consider negative, in our own lives or in the lives of others. For example, watching someone close to us become increasingly ill, and possibly pass away soon, because he/she is not able to open his/her heart and mind in this lifetime. Compassion is understanding that his/her Higher Self made the choice to leave, because staying here on Earth would be much harder to bear his/her own pain. His/Her Inner Master has made its choice, and our Inner Master must accept it in deep reverence, without judgment. Here applies very well the term « Namaste » which, spiritually, means « The divine in me greets the divine in you. ». And so it is! :)

Today I share with you the Compassion Guidelines taken from the book "Spiritual Partnership" by Gary Zukav, and I take this opportunity to remind you that the Pink Flame and the Violet Flame are excellent to help us work on love, acceptance, gratitude, compassion, to open our hearts. Blessings, Anabela.

« 1- CHANGE PERSPECTIVE from fearful to loving (choosing to see myself and others in a loving or appreciative way).

Changing perspective from fearful to loving is the operative dynamic in creating authentic power. It represents the shift from anxiety to appreciation; and from pain to joy. Although you cannot change emotions at your pleasure, you can choose what you will do when the emotions arise. You can react (act once again as before, unconsciously) or respond (act in a different way, consciously choose another intention, create anew). [...] Both continually provide you with the fundamental choice of the Earth school - love or fear. Will you accept, immerse and sink into the perceptions of a fearful part of your personality, strengthening yourself in your known painful experiences; or will you choose to acknowledge, feel and challenge them, shifting your attention to other perspectives, other possible ways of understanding other intentions? When you choose to stay in the distorted experiences and perceptions of the fearful parts of your personality, you are seeking external power. And you create authentic power when you use your will to explore elsewhere and make the healthiest choices possible, even when the fearful parts of your personality attract you. [...]

2- RELEASE ANY DISTANCE you feel toward someone.

[...] There are as many ways to create distance from people as there are experiences of the fearful parts of your personality; e.g. jealousy, resentment, anger, needing to please and feeling entitled to something, feeling depressed, inadequate or impatient. These are all opportunities to challenge and heal the fearful parts of your personality and cultivate the loving parts. You will know when a fearful part of your personality no longer controls you when you feel close to someone again (or for the first time). [...] What you don't want to see in yourself (a fearful part of your personality), you project out into the world and see outside yourself. And you never like it when you see it there. [...] The degree of repulsion you observe serves to evaluate to what extent you do not want to recognize in yourself what you think you see in others. [...] At first it may seem impossible that you are in any way similar to the person you find so unpleasant. But be persistent. Eventually you will find in yourself exactly the same things that you dislike about that person. When you do, your judgments will dissipate. [...] Instead of seeing that person as an object of hatred, you will see him/her as someone who has fearful parts of his/her personality similar to the fearful parts of yours. [...] Whether the person you push away is exactly the way you think they are or not, there is a painful emotional charge telling you that a fearful part of your personality is active. If you are honest, e.g. noticing the dishonesty of others will not create an emotional reaction in you. You will see a fearful part of their personality that is dishonest and act accordingly (e.g. by not giving them the keys to your house). If you are also dishonest, or unwilling to acknowledge that you are not always in integrity, you will judge, blame, avoid that person, badmouth them, etc., for being dishonest. In other words, recognizing a fearful part of your personality in someone else's personality is not a projection. Reacting emotionally to it is.

3- BE PRESENT while others are talking (do not prepare answers, judge, etc.).

When the person you are with does not direct your attention, you lose power. Being present with others is not a communicational skill. It is something necessary to consciously enter one' s life. When you meet someone to whom you are not paying attention and you are wondering about a response, e.g., or what you should be doing somewhere else, or you feel that this individual does not deserve your attention, that is entering a void of daydreams and worries. [...] If you are not present with others, you cannot see the opportunities the Universe gives you to find the roots of your pain and your joy. You are sitting by a well, and you are thirsty. The water is right there, but you can't see it. Some people spend their whole lives thirsty. My adopted Sioux uncle said to me: « Nephew, always listen respectfully when someone is speaking, even if you think what the person is saying is absurd. » He had no interest in flattering people. What he had was a commitment to creating a life of power. It is always possible to leave a conversation without allowing your attention to leave first. There are no casual or fortuitous interactions. You and those you meet are fellow souls, learning lessons of power, responsibility, wisdom, or love. [...] Power exists only in the present moment. Savor each moment, not by grasping it, but by expanding it. »

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