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Courage Guidelines

As we move forward on our ascension path, we sometimes lack the courage to move on, to truly look within ourselves, when we encounter external situations that still activate the fearful parts of our personality. But it is exactly by looking within looking within that we identify these fearful parts and the respective keys to heal them. And by healing them, we change the way we look at these same external situations. They stop activating our fearful parts because we start looking at them with the loving parts of our personality; or they simply disappear from our lives. And here the Miracles begin! :)

Today I share with you the Courage Guidelines taken from the book "Spiritual Partnership" by Gary Zukav, and I take this opportunity to remind you that the Blue Flame is excellent for helping us to remove our fears and increase our faith and courage. Blessings, Anabela.

« 1- ASSUME THE RESPONSIBILITY for my feelings, experiences, and actions (not to blame).

This is the central topic of authentic power. It is all about taking responsibility for your experiences. [...] Taking responsibility for your experiences means reminding yourself, no matter what, that «This is happening for a reason. I may not be able to see that reason right now. My intention is to learn all I can about myself. How can this experience help me heal the fearful parts of my personality that are based on fear?». [...] Angry parts, e.g., are convinced that your anger is caused by others, and is justified. [...] Depressed parts are convinced that your depression is caused by circumstances, and is justified, and so on. By taking responsibility for all of your experiences, you are putting yourself in the powerful position of being able to figure out which of your choices created which of your experiences, thus becoming able, or not, to recreate them. Instead of assuming that it is the others or the circumstances that create your experiences (this is how a victim sees the world), you are assuming that it is your choices that create them (this is how a creator sees the world). [...]

2- PUT INTEGRITY INTO PRACTICE at all times (it often requires action, such as speaking up when the fearful parts of my personality don't want to speak; and not speaking up when they feel compelled to).

[...] You can never know in advance what integrity will require of you. If you need to speak to avoid feeling uncomfortable, to show people that you are present, or to control the conversation, and you are aware of it, integrity will require you not to speak. If speaking in front of a group intimidates you, or if you think that what you have to say is not important, if you are aware of it, integrity will require you to speak. Every interaction carries its own healing potential. Integrity appeals to that potential. If you ignore it, you will find yourself feeling uneasy, on the "wrong track", or wanting to make a second choice. If you answer the call, you will feel at ease and content with the path you have chosen. [...]

3- TO SAY OR DO WHAT'S HARDEST (to share what I notice, if appropriate, when someone speaks or acts from a fearful part of his/her personality; to share about myself when I feel afraid to speak and know I need to speak).

Look carefully at your intention before you share something that is hard for you to share. Does it derive from fear? Are you saying something to judge and blame the other person? Or does it derive from love? Are you intending to create a healthier relationship or support the other in spiritual growth? Words can give rise to much healing or create much harm, especially when we are troubled. This guideline does not give you permission to discharge, to rage, to judge, to sneer, to criticize, or to condemn openly or covertly. [...] Saying what is most difficult to say helps you to end the distance you feel toward the other person and to speak in real, connected, and appropriate ways. [...] Avoiding what needs to be said ends intimacy. If you don't have the courage to tell a friend, for example, that his anger scares you, or that his drinking is unacceptable, a distance starts to build between the two of you and then grows. The fearful parts of your personality will not tell you what is most difficult, because they strive for security and comfort. [...] As you know, you create authentic power when you say what is most difficult with the intention of challenging and healing a fearful part of your personality. It also creates authentic power when you like someone enough to share what you fear will damage your relationship, and when you like them enough to look for the most appropriate ways to express yourself before you speak. Saying and doing what is most difficult is not a necessity for Spiritual Partners. It is a permanent commitment. »

PS: You can use the image in this article to help you open your inner vision. Just look at it and breathe. You can also share it, I just ask that you keep the credit on the image. Gratitude! Anabela


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